This happened to me 20 years ago. I was sterile. Wife told her entire family that I was THE PROBLEM. She literally told her family that I was a biologically defective person.
She shamed me, asking herself out loud how she could have married a REJECT. THEN, I got to experience the shame of her telling her entire family. Like WTF. None of their F Business !!!

Been there. My only job in life I wanted to be able to have a child and fate decided for me.
She picked a book of sperm donors and told me to pick some guy that looked like ME that was smart. I have never felt so LOW in all of my life.
After the child was born she had this amazing bond with “our” child and has always pushed this hidden to him, this animosity towards me. Now it’s like I’m a third wheel. She and him make fun of me. Life did not turn out like I thought it was going to.