Don’t talk about yourself so negatively, my man. This interaction didn’t go super well. But, she waiting for you outside the bathroom. She saw you didn’t know what to do and was kind enough to see beyond that to the person you are underneath. If you tell yourself, “I’m oblivious. I’ll fuck up again in the future. I am no good,” you best believe those things will be true, but only because you believe them. Start telling yourself things that you want to be true. “When I fuck up, I know I can recover. I am not bound to fuck up. I am learning, growing, and deserving of peace and love. Success is within my reach. I am not where I want to be, but I can work to get myself there.” Simple affirmations that may feel like “lies” at first but in reality can be and will be true IF you start to believe them. Our personal identities are mostly the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves about our lives. Start telling yourself a better story. You are worthy of self confidence, peace, joy, and love. But you will only have those things when you believe they’re possible for you. You got this.

With experience, you often gain wisdom. Even if you’re oblivious, you’ll likely be less less oblivious as you gain experience/wisdom. PS-I’m the oblivious type too, so I’m speaking of how things went for me as I got older

My dude…. If you like her then the best thing you could do is start slow. Hold her hand back. Running like that probably scared her as much as her holding her hand scared you. My old man advise to you is to talk to her. Heart to heart. Tell her you didn’t know how to process what happened. I’m sure she will understand. Girls are pretty cool like that. Usually. You say your oblivious. We all are my friend. Listen to her. Pay attention to body language and comments. There is a lot of information there. You’ll get there I promise. It’s hard some times. I know this because I was kind of like you when I was young. I over came it with the same advise I just gave you. Relationships are awesome.

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