LazyChemist t1_ixiwppy wrote on November 23, 2022 at 7:52 PM

Reply to comment by CondensedRiver in TIFU by falling for an exchange student by [deleted]

I'm going to tell you this from an older guy who's been through the wringer. Of all the people who ever said "I can't" it's always been an "I won't". I won't put in the time and effort to make it happen. I won't do the homework to get it done. I won't.

This is your first life lesson as you enter adulthood. How much do you want it? This theme will repeat ad nauseam through out your life.

454vette t1_ixkhpgo wrote on November 24, 2022 at 2:58 AM

This from a parent who with my wife were host parents to 7 exchange students from all over the world . We also had 3 teenagers during those 8 years we hosted . No matter the country, teenagers are much alike the world over. Of the 7 students 4 have made return visits years later and some have made several return visits, one with her parents first and then with her husband twice and we have visited her twice. Next year another one is making a 2 nd visit with his wife and 2 children. What I am trying to say is you can maintain relationships regardless of distance. Save some money and visit her in her country. It doesn't have to be a love relationship just be friends whether it amounts to more so be it. One of things the exchange students taught us is they get to know people the world over and they visit one another. The have found it is cheap way to travel- just a plane ticket and a free place to stay. So you can maintain relationships regardless of distance if your willing to put in the effort.