mashed-_-potato t1_j1oxkf1 wrote on December 26, 2022 at 5:14 AM

OP, I appreciate how you are acknowledging that what you did was wrong. You clearly sincerely regret what you have done. You made a mistake, and that does not define you. But you need to make some changes in your life to be better. You should definitely reevaluate your relationship with alcohol to prevent anything like this from happening again. You also might consider writing a letter to her explaining your side of the story. On the envelope, write “You don’t have to read this now or ever, but if you ever want my full apology, here it is.” That way she has the option to read your apology and possibly get some closure in the future if she wants.

mp_phantom t1_j1pzr57 wrote on December 26, 2022 at 1:51 PM

Probably the best comment from from this post worth reading...period. All the downvoters and people choosing to insult the guy should definitely read this.

Paralistalon t1_j1qsslh wrote on December 26, 2022 at 5:43 PM

I read that as, provide a full written confession of your crime so that she can choose to prosecute you if she wants. But that’s just me.

Melodic-Spite-5918 OP t1_j1p95mp wrote on December 26, 2022 at 7:38 AM

Thank you for the kind words. Yes, I will be reevaluating my relationship with alcohol. I've had trouble with alcohol in the past but I never hurt someone before because of it. When I was 15, I got myself drunk to the point of collapse on the regular and one time I woke up in the hospital after drinking myself into a near death state. I have since severely reduced the amounts of alcohol that I take in but as it seems that was not enough. Since I now know that I might become a liability to those around me, I'm going to consider staying away from alcohol altogether from now on.

The letter might actually be a good idea, I hadn't thought about that. That way I could offer her a formal and complete apology without putting her into a situation where she has to read it if she doesn't want to deal with the topic.