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Corasin t1_j1riqgd wrote

Reply to comment by chocolatecakedonut in TIFU: I molested the girl I like and now I don't know how to live with myself by Melodic-Spite-5918

Assuming that the story is 100% true(never the case), I feel like the first time very well could have been a misunderstanding but it does seem sketch because he was drunk. That being said, according to the story, she really wanted to see him, invited him over to stay the night, had beds pushed together, etc. This was a romantic night where neither party communicated what was and wasn't appropriate. Two young people not planning things out well or communicating well is a bit rough to start calling him a sexual predator. The second time after she put explicit boundaries, he's hit assault and the situation got very rapey. Chick is very well in the right mindset to ghost him. That being said, dude needs to not drink and get counseling. He clearly has some serious issues and needs to get to a point where he loves himself before he starts trying to love someone else. I'm very sorry for the girl, but the first part is on her as well for not communicating her boundaries. Both parties are wrong for not communicating. It sounds like both parties have a need for counseling and self-love. Dude needs to completely stop drinking. Learn from it, thank God that it wasn't worse. Leave the girl alone and stop sexually assaulting people. No means no, even 5 minutes and some cuddles later.

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Corasin t1_j1sup16 wrote

I think that if she's going to put out mixed signals and invite someone to sleep with them, she should communicate as well. The first time could have been avoided on either party. He shouldn't have been drunk, she should have set expectations before. The second time 100% was him getting rapey. I clearly stated this. He might have genuinely thought that she was into him. Who knows,we have a one sided story and I doubt it went down as he claims and it was most likely much worse...again though, read my comment. I just said that with no communication and her saying that she really wanted to see him and inviting him over to sleep then doing a makeshift king-size bed to share, I can understand a scenario where it was an honest mistake. Add in that she might have been okay with other things like breast play. You're assuming more than what was given in the story. I am not.

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