TIFU by getting myself friendzoned to someone who may have been 'The One'

Submitted by imamuffin18 t3_zxrr41 in tifu

This was a couple days ago, but I only realized where I am today.

We've all been there; we've all gotten friend-zoned. This time was different though; I really, REALLY liked this girl. For the first time in a long time, I actually felt giddy around her. I wasn't depressed and I actually couldn't wait to be around this girl. She's all I could think about for the past two weeks; I can't even focus on work; that's how much I liked her.

She invited me to her apartment and we ordered Chinese food (she paid; she wouldn't let me pay her back no matter how much I insisted). We ate, we did a couple edibles, we put on the Princess Bride. At one point in the night, she told me that she just got out of a serious relationship and she didn't want to lead me anywhere. Whereas I SHOULD'VE said 'we can take things as slow as we needed to' or something along those lines. I actually said "no worries. Tonight we're just two friends hanging out" or something along those lines.

I tried texting her yesterday; she never responded. Summbitch; how could I be so STUPID?

TL;DR: I said I'd rather be friends out of fear because I wanted to respect boundaries; I could've done it differently. Now I'm friend zoned by someone who could've The One.

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AstronautWombat t1_j21wopm wrote

I don’t mean to sound rude, but you sound young. This sort of interaction will happen many, many times in your life. Maybe not as cute, maybe not as easily, but the same gist. It wasn’t meant to be, so move on to the next. You’ll know when it’s meant to happen.

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HFGuy9999 t1_j21ww97 wrote

Stop thinking that there is such things as "the one". There is basically unlimited number of perfect partners out there for all of us, we just have to find them.

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faintestsmile t1_j21wwrw wrote

if shes actually interested you would not be "friend-zoned" over one comment like that, trust me

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MarryMeDuffman t1_j223wug wrote

There is no friend 'zone.'

You're just a friend, like everyone else. If you think that's something you're being subjected to like some kind of purgatory, you need to think about it again.

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AcrobaticSource3 t1_j224z3m wrote

You said “tonight we’re just two friends hanging out” you didn’t say “we only will be two friends hanging out forever” so take it easy, muffin

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allawd t1_j22htv5 wrote

Sounds like she knew you would be the easy button to boost her confidence in a time when she feels down due to a breakup. What you said is a totally normal response.

Not saying this is what happened, but consider this is possibly not even a friend if she's aware of your attraction and strings you along just to boost her ego when it's convenient to her.

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clownandmuppet t1_j232r3n wrote

Play the game. Hang with other girls to see if she gets jealous. If she doesn’t bat an eyelid, then you truly are friendzoned

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MotoHULK t1_j24pw5c wrote

A woman never friendzones a man she wants.

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NeedsWit t1_j24yre1 wrote

Friendzone means you're still communicating, what you describe sounds like you got ghosted. But she didn't block you, there's a gazillion possible reasons for that. See how she reacts next time you encounter her.

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