I know this may sound harsh but, it was a “blessing” to experience this as a girlfriend and not a fiancé or wife. You may only be dating now, but if you ever consider marring him you have to consider when you marry someone you also marry their family. You have to look at the situation and ask yourself if you can/ are willing to live with this for the rest of your life. And if your boyfriend is not checking up on you and making sure you feel safe and comfortable in an unfamiliar environment, then you have to ask yourself, are you okay with fending for yourself?

The fact that there were no finger foods while you wait for a late dinner is telling about the stress levels that this family may have in general. No, you don’t have to manage your sugar levels by yourself, you are a guest at a dinner party, who starves their guess and bombards them with weird political fodder? It feels as if they intentionally made things uncomfortable and your “boyfriend” either is clueless or just doesn’t care. Or worse of all, it’s normal for him and this is the kind of behavior to expect from him during your relationship.

“In-laws”, are a mirror to what you can expect in your own home structure with that person going forward.

You were right to leave the situation. If you were not being treated with respect and courtesy then why subject yourself to misery? If your boyfriend can’t see or understand that then maybe you should evaluate if you are willing to put in time and effort into a relationship with someone who won’t be willing to make an effort to meet your needs and see your self care efforts as “bratty”.