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Grammasweets t1_j2eetwa wrote
You sure you want to be married?
-Chris-V- t1_j2eyb4u wrote
Man, I've read a lot of bad things on here but you may have won.
Your wife must feel so humiliated. Her friend must feel so icky.
Alcohol is no excuse.
The thing you did was in inside you and alcohol let it out. I kinda refuse to accept the excuse of wanting to comfort the friend.
My suspicion is that you're freaked out about the commitment of getting married and have a tendency to self sabotage.
I don't think abstaining from drinking is going to be enough to save this level of screw up. Curious to see what people think could help.
KrankySilverFox t1_j2e6ax6 wrote
Drinking so much that you are in a blackout and hitting on the wife’s best friend is a huge red flag. You need to get help for addiction.
Drakoneous t1_j2e0tqg wrote
Yeah bro, that's pretty fucked. Good luck to you.
theBacillus t1_j2e1lri wrote
Great start for the year :)
AcrobaticSource3 t1_j2fcejg wrote
Or very strategic to let the year end this way...so if it is brought up again, OP can say, “Pfft, that was last year!”
SavvyMac93 t1_j2ea40j wrote
Will need an update
chitown_og22 t1_j2fp9ys wrote
I’m blessed and don’t deserve her. We talked about it. I’ll be going to therapy in addition to ceasing any al hijo l consumption.
burge4150 t1_j2f8olr wrote
Nothing says class like being blackout drunk on your wedding day
LorenzoStomp t1_j2f1blg wrote
The best apology is taking action to not let it happen again. Quit drinking. Go to therapy, both individual and couples. Don't make her drag you or do all the work of setting up the appts, take initiative and suggest it and follow through yourself. If she doesn't want couples therapy go to individual by yourself. PsychologyToday's Therapist Finder makes it very easy to get connected if you are in the US and several other European/South American countries.
chitown_og22 t1_j2fpjxc wrote
Thank you so much for your objective look on the situation. I did take your advice, and we talked about the problem.
I’m quitting drinking, and signing up for therapy. Hope to start this week.
Thank you again. I know a lot of folks here just comment insults but your comment in 1 in a million.
MoreSunflowers43 t1_j2e9zoy wrote
Oh you really fucked up man. Hopefully you can mend things, but I know that, drunk or not, this could end a relationship. I really hope your marriage isn’t over before it really starts
Bl8675309 t1_j2eko5a wrote
Drinking so much at your wedding that you black out and hit on your new wifes best friend. Do you always drink that much? Did she know this before marrying you? That's not setting great expectations for the future.
JimmiRustle t1_j2eobx8 wrote
Prob a little late to give up drinking.
But tell your wife you’re gonna start AA or something.
chitown_og22 t1_j2fpo27 wrote
Thank you. I did and I am signing up to therapy as well.
ItsJustMeBeinCurious t1_j2fm2ac wrote
Alcohol doesn’t make you do anything. It just lowers inhibitions. So you followed your nature. You feel like a “piece of shit”. Trust that feeling.
rams3se t1_j2fkcvn wrote
Omg first awful reddit story I've read in 2023
boogboi89 t1_j2fppdv wrote
remember all of those drink responsibly commercials.... well I mean you probably don't, but pepperidge farm remembers
dudededed t1_j2fitn0 wrote
Its alcohol not you. Say it like u mean it that it was the booze talking and not you.
manofwar26 t1_j2e1iy8 wrote
Oh man. It sounds like you were probably trying to be supportive but went overboard.
I hope it works out and youre able to mend things.
OffusMax t1_j2e39rk wrote
Definitely give up drinking. And get on your knees and beg for forgiveness