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imakesawdust t1_j0olh35 wrote

I know you refer to her as your "bestie" but I'm curious where you rank on her totem pole. It sounds like you two have very different likes and dislikes. She likes to party, you don't. She likes crowds, you don't. She thinks hanging out with you at your place is boring. I get the impression that you value her friendship more than she does yours?

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photo-nerd-121 OP t1_j0pcts5 wrote

Well, we grew close when I was living in the dorms. We just enjoyed each other’s company and helped with each other’s issues. She called me several times when her (now ex) was “causing harm” and I would rush over to save her. But she would get mad at me for not liking him after. On the flip side, when I moved out of the dorm, my neighbors were unalived and she let me, my partner and our pets stay with her until the person was caught. We both have estranged mothers. But we started growing apart because I stopped wanting to go to bars and parties. She says my reasons aren’t good enough “excuses” and I got really frustrated with that. So Friday was just the cherry on top

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photo-nerd-121 OP t1_j0pdt4e wrote

I should also mention, while I don’t like going I still go because I know she likes it. In the past month we’ve gone bar hopping 3 times, it would have been four if not for this incident. And she’s only come over once in the past 6 months.

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Ghost17088 t1_j0pwp12 wrote

I had probably 30 people I regularly hung out with in college between people I met in my dorm, roommates, and their friends. I regularly talk to like 3 of those people. The reality is, in college and high school, you’re friends due to proximity.

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