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Flat_Insurance_6170 t1_j5ni391 wrote

?? I was expecting him to be an actual psychopath. You are both troubled but none are psychopaths.

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whatevernameidk t1_j5pha53 wrote

Same. Kept waiting for a plot twist which never came, now I'm confused af. I actually find the lady a bit worse? 🤔 I mean she started the drama and ended it, dude went along and well he has his faults but oh well none of ma business

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Snookn42 t1_j5vib33 wrote

Theres some BS here.. this story would not have been 'closed' Each side did something wrong and immature, and the girl is a bit worse

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HopOnTheHype t1_j5vj4bw wrote

Are you just crying that she was doing consensual non monogamy? She even was open about it till he was uncomfy and broke things off with her, she did nothing

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kdavis37 t1_j5pqeew wrote

How on Earth is "I'm a lesbian and don't want to be with men" followed by being manipulated for years worse? Because she told him repeatedly she's unhappy and wants to be with women?

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wildrussy t1_j5ps617 wrote

>"I'm a lesbian and don't want to be with men"

"But I want to stay with you, and I can't stand seeing you with other women. So I'm going to sleep around, but you stay loyal."

I think the guy might be slightly worse here, but keeping him on the hook while exploring her sexuality was pretty scummy.

I imagine that's what most are objecting to.

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Mogioeki t1_j5q7en3 wrote

In his story he said he got her to agree to stay. So it was more like she didn't want to hurt him, so she made a choice she thought would work for him, because it was his idea. Then he found out it didn't work for him. Clarified if it was a two way street, and then hurt her on purpose by paying someone to have sex with him. Guy is worse, but not a psychopath. Just doesn't know how to communicate and makes very poor choices to get his point across.

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random8002 t1_j5s37pn wrote

.... she couldve just left with christina if thats what she really wanted??

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CentralAdmin t1_j5sbt2i wrote

Bingo. Why are some posters going to extreme lengths to remove all accountability and agency from someone who could have said no and moved in with the person she actually wanted?

What did she expect would happen?

Flip the genders and think if a wife sleeping with other men while her husband fucks his boyfriend would be met with as much ire, or if people would be implying the husband did her a favour by staying with her so as not to hurt her feelings.

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TheDevilsJoy t1_j5wa2x2 wrote

When did she say “I am unhappy and want to be with women.”? She said she wanted to explore with Christina but didn’t want to break up… explain please

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SugisakiKen627 t1_j5pokyh wrote

OP just want clarification that she is not the asshole, instead faced with realities from mature comments here...

It is like both should communicate things much better from the beginning, thats all

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HopOnTheHype t1_j5vj92s wrote

Consensual non monogamy? Homie you’re just crying about polyamory at this point, which was openly communicated, you’re just insecure

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HopOnTheHype t1_j5viyes wrote

So the bf hires someone to make them jealous on purpose out of manipulative spite, and you’re calling her a psychopath too because she did consensual non monogamy?

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Flat_Insurance_6170 t1_j5w5myz wrote

I guess your reading skills aren't so great huh?

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HopOnTheHype t1_j5wapkx wrote

You didn’t provide an argument, you’re just an incel like the original op guy

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ExoticButters79 t1_j5wd9xc wrote

Lol you learned a word now think it applies to anyone who doesn't agree with you.

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HopOnTheHype t1_j5xmmk4 wrote

Concept of story: They agreed to polyamory, she was discreet with it to keep him from getting insecure, he got insecure and small dick about it anyway, hired an escort to abuser style manipulate her like a sociopath, she felt uncomfy about how he was parading the girl in front of her, fell for the abuser manipulation tactics, had an emotional argument, and then agreed to monogamy.

That's what happened.

You're defending this

You're defending this because you relate more to the abuser than the victim, you're an insecure guy who thinks he got his revenge or something, you're incel asf.

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ExoticButters79 t1_j5zxa4q wrote

To call her a victim is a gross overreach. Stop pretending everyone is a victim

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HopOnTheHype t1_j60nggn wrote

Guy broke the boundaries of their polyamory, guy hired an escort to manipulate her like an abuser

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ExoticButters79 t1_j60oe85 wrote

Sounds like you need to mature a little. It yoursepf

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HopOnTheHype t1_j60r2vo wrote

I need to mature because I think it’s manipulative and abusive to hire an escort with the sheer purpose of my one’s partner jealous? That’s like textbook manipulation, you’re defending it cuz you are an abuser too tbh

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ExoticButters79 t1_j60sokf wrote

Lmfao no kiddo. I'm not even defending what either of them did. In my original response to this I called them both out for what they are and have done. I am simply pointing out your overreaction. Which is exactly what you are doing. You are a career victim. Stop finding victims hood in everything.

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HopOnTheHype t1_j60t5qk wrote

Honestly at this point you’re just defending narcissistic manipulation by an abuser and conflating it equally to her being uncomfy about him doing the polyamory openly in front of her, which is stupid. At this point he could beat her, And you’d conflate it to her being upset about it, and say she’s being a professional victim. You’re just sus lol

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ExoticButters79 t1_j60xtjb wrote

Just because you use big words doesn't make you smarter

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HopOnTheHype t1_j6103vm wrote

Holy shit, you’re just cry bullying me rn because you can’t argue against my point. Literally there is no way to justify his actions as anything but manipulation, which is abuse, you’re smelly for trying and failing to defend that

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