No, OP. Today you fucked up by sharing the responses to your situation from a relatively progressive subreddit (AITD) to a very regressive one. There’s a reason most of us stay off of mainstream subreddits like this one, or AskReddit, or PublicFreakout, or whatever. Most minority folks don’t want to deal with dozens of 25-year-old white dudes giving their shit takes on situations that have nothing to do with them.

Notice how the majority of these folks have glossed over the fact that your ex-partner thought it was okay to coerce a teenager into a long-term relationship. They also pretended not to see that you were financially dependent on this much older person. These people genuinely believe there is no power differential between an almost-child and the 30-year-old man she is dependent on.

These people(men) would need an itemized list of every time he beat you half to death before they’d even consider calling him abusive. If you want support for anything less than that, you’ll have to go somewhere where the majority of the demographic doesn’t empathize with your abuser. I recommend r/TwoXChromosomes or r/actuallesbians for general support but I’m sure there’s more niche subreddits for the sort of abuse you suffered.