intellifone t1_j2pbnqn wrote on January 3, 2023 at 12:33 AM

Reply to comment by Ok_Magician7814 in TIL that bots 🤖 drive ~40% of all internet traffic. by kkoolook

I think we said the same thing. Guys currently say “yes” way too much. Guys need to swipe “no” a lot more than they do. Women already are swiping “no” the majority of the time. That’s what both should do to maximize high quality matches.

Ok_Magician7814 t1_j2pl0k0 wrote on January 3, 2023 at 1:38 AM

High quality matches based on what? I don’t know guys profiles but I’m familiar with girls profiles where over 80% are not descriptive at all and based purely on looks. So how should a guy be more meaningfully discerning?

intellifone t1_j2pqfen wrote on January 3, 2023 at 2:14 AM

I’m trying not to be condescending here but the math here is very simple.

If 80% of women’s profiles are missing descriptions and you’re supposed to say no to 49/50 profiles, then you still have 9 remaining profiles with details to say No to before you still get to the one single Yes.

That means of the 20% of “good” profiles, the ones that aren’t bots or aren’t trying to sling an OnlyFans, the ones with genuine photos and good descriptions in their profiles, you’re still supposed to say No to 1 in 10.

Say No to 95% of all profiles. The same way you would in real life if you went to a random bar. You’re not approaching 50% of the women in that bar even if 100% are guaranteed single. Not even 25%. You might say something to 1 or 2.

DeengisKhan t1_j2rnfid wrote on January 3, 2023 at 1:55 PM

I’m a super middle of the road white male. I’m have some of the favored traits in that I’m 6ft tall on the dot, and classically masculine looking, but I’m also pretty fat, and a total nerd. Like 100’s of days on RuneScape plays dnd once a week kind of nerd. I have no problem with dating sites. My only “gimmick” is I know how to cook and make that somewhat focal on my profiles. That’s the whole formula though. I put dumpy ass photos of myself being myself as my profile pics so as to make sure that if we do get to in person meeting that I always look better than my photos, and then only swipe on people I see myself attempting to actually go on a date with. I spent about 2 weeks on hinge a year ago, and have been with the person I met ever since and we live together now. I have met all but one girlfriend in this way over the course of about 8 years of relationships ending and beginning. It’s totally doable my friends I promise.