Recently I've watched a documentary on a family that lost their son in Ukraine. The little brother was devastated. But teh father was proud that his son died as a hero for his coutry. Now I'm thinking if he realizes that his son died in vain, what other choice does he have? Admit that he died for nothing? After 21 years invested in that young boy can he accept that it died in vain. His pride rather chose the 'hero' route.