It's a russian victory when a family that couldn't leave freezes to death in the cold. Every Ukrainian family you keep alive is a victory against the russians. Personally I choose to support the civilians but very much support the military in my heart.

I donated $50 to a Ukranian non-military charity. Why? Because I served 12 years in the US Army with 4 deployments under my belt, and I know the things that happen off-camera in a time of war, and I don't want to directly fund any part of that.