Yeah! Get after it!!!

You might have an auditory processing disorder. (Are you bad at singing? Do you need to take notes to remember lectures/instructions?)

You might have some social anxiety.

Are you bad at facial recognition? Bad with directions?

You might not be good at working fast or multi-tasking.

None of these things mean you are not smart and none of them mean you can't be very successful in the right job. I like others' suggestions of programming. How are you with logic puzzles?

Look for a high-paying career path. It's not just the salary; you will have better work conditions all the way along. (I worked in a restaurant long ago. People were competitive, cliquish and unfriendly.)

Check out r/girlsgoneswired. They will steer you in the right direction.

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My parents are both in assisted living facilities. The good nursing aides are like gold. Keep up that great work--every smile and every competence is so appreciated.

There are different types of procrastination. I mostly hop on stuff and get it done, but if it's something that scares me I will put it off. My internal talk is, "I just can't face it" with a feeling of doom or despair.

If that's how I feel, I find the best technique is to set a timer and say, "I only have to do 20 minutes today." Or 60 or 30 or 15--the rule is I come up with a number that is tolerable. If that means lowering it to 10, fine. I can do anything with a good strong effort for 10 min.

I like accomplishing stuff so once I get going I will usually keep going. But if I hit the timer goal I can stop and I feel great about it.

The #1 secret to my procrastination usually comes down to, "After I do the research I will have to make a decision and I'm afraid to make the decision." A lot of things have gone wrong in my life over the past 20 yrs (medical stuff, interpersonal stuff) so I've acquired a new fear of making decisions.

If I do the research over the course of a few days I generally get enough info that I can make the decision comfortably--but somehow doing the research while anticipating the decision is too hard. I have to separate the two things--leave the decision for a timer task on a different day.

#2 secret to my procrastination: I grew up in a dysfunctional family and now have a lot of responsibility for helping/dealing with/making decisions for my elderly parents. It's hard, it's daily, and I also have to deal with two siblings who have caused a lot of damage in my life. So I'm coping with something that works like a parasitic battery drain in your car. >> The lesson here is to be aware of and respect the other factors that are causing stress in your systems.

#3 secret to my procrastination: I do way more research and work than other people do in order to try and guarantee a better result. Part of this is personality, part of it is trying to waterproof my life to prevent more bad stuff happening. (See #1.) I haven't found a comfortable way to change this, but I do remind myself occasionally, "It's okay to be a satisficer not an optimizer."

I'm not sure what exact type of procrastination you're talking about, but I have found being gentle with myself and shrinking the size of the task to such a tiny amt that it is doable can be a good strategy.

Also--hopping on something RIGHT AWAY (even if it's a tiny timer task) is the right answer for me. I hate feeling like I am behind the curve.

Jealousy and envy are incredibly painful emotions.

Can you work on identifying the emotion as soon as it shows up? Then identify the thing you want. And take steps toward getting it.

If you work toward what you want, every day, you can cut the legs out from under jealousy.