CrimsonKepala

CrimsonKepala t1_j9dgx8u wrote

Reply to comment by cosplayernerdgirl in What do you do with photos that you don’t know who people are? More information in comments. 1940? by cosplayernerdgirl

I've become the family tree historian of the family and I found it EXTREMELY helpful to digitize all of the photos (a major task, I know) and upload them to my google photos. Google photos is really smart about face matching, even across drastic age differences, and people in photos that I didn't recognize before, I realized who they were only after the face match suggestion was made by google photos. It's not a perfect system by any means, but I have been able to identify way more people by doing this.

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CrimsonKepala t1_iuey5c8 wrote

Reply to comment by skuzzlebut90 in LPT: Birthdays and Growing up by diilym1230

Yea, just google narcissism and birthdays and you'll find that there's a significant pattern.

Birthdays go from being an opportunity to spend time with your friends and family to making every little bit of the day about you and it being PERFECT. It also seems like narcissists tend to use their birthdays to get away with even worse selfish behavior than normal because it's their "special day".

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CrimsonKepala t1_iuex9sp wrote

Reply to comment by NatureOfYourReality in LPT: Birthdays and Growing up by diilym1230

Yesssssss. I get reminders from family to tell someone happy birthday when I was already going to, lol. I never say "I know" so that I don't sound rude but it's every single time. It feels like it was my idea originally but after "needing" a reminder, it ends up feeling like I'm doing it because someone told me to.

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CrimsonKepala t1_iuewj0l wrote

Reply to comment by mps435 in LPT: Birthdays and Growing up by diilym1230

I agree 100%.

My mother-in-law reminds both me and my husband every time a family member's birthday comes-up. We have it as a repeat event on our shared calendar so we already know about it and guess what...if we forget to tell them "happy birthday" then we forget. It's not a big deal.

But the fact that it seems so important that she feels the need to give us a personal reminder for it makes it feel like an obligation at that point. As a result, a bunch of the family members get weird about "happy birthdays". Meanwhile for both my husband and I we really don't care about getting all of those messages. When anyone says something like "I'm so sorry I'm late in telling you happy birthday!" we always tell them that it doesn't matter and that it's perfectly fine.

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