Uh... that's not the point? If this was a question of who's right or wrong, then in case she actually is running with the kid, we would have to ask HIM to not say "I fucked up by accidentally texting her" (let alone me saying he fucked up), because who cares what she feels about the text if she's really doing it?

"Fucking up" in this context has nothing to do with right or wrong, it only concerns how smoothly a certain isolated situation could've gone instead of how it did, and to me, it would've been better if he just told her straight, than to say it accidentally. He's not wrong, he's a victim, and if she in fact is leaving the country, then well, yeah, she is wrong.

You fucked up earlier by not discussing it with her. I mean, I know she's your ex, but we should just get people used to being open and honest about everything. It's obviously a thought that you couldn't repress or dismiss, let's be honest, so let it out (and I can't blame you, I mean dude, a passport for a 5 year old as an ID and not a normal state ID? That's suspicious, if not a dead-give-away)

Could've just brought it up to her on the phone or in person, directly and in very simple and friendly words. Or just ask "Why a passport and not a state ID?" without stating it completely. She'd do the math. Anyways, I hope everything's good, although I think the reason she didn't text back is because she was exposed. Wonder how things went.