I don’t think anyone should ever cheat. And I didn’t mean to say it is ok to cheat. But I think people may look when unhappy. And if you view your partner as a child you may not bother to want to work on the relationship first. A thousand cuts is usually what kills a relationship.

Have you thought about what is wrong in the relationship from her point of view? Do you do your share in your house? Does she carry the full mental load of everything regarding the kids, the household, the pets, the finances? Are you one of those people who leaves the glass in the sink instead of putting it in the dishwasher cause you couldn’t be bothered to check if the dishwasher was was dirty or clean? And if it was clean you don’t want to be bothered to empty it? Does she have to ask you to do everything or do you step right in and take out the trash when you notice it’s full? Do you know the names of your kids teachers, friends, doctor and babysitter? Do you ever schedule anything for them? Doc apt, dental cleaning, play date, summer camp? Do you both work outside the home? If so are you really doing your share at home? How about money? Do you treat money fairly and with respect and together plan your future? Have you taken her out to dinner or cooked her dinner lately? Or on a date? Or bought her a present or flowers?Given her a compliment? Have you kept care of yourself? Hygiene, health, teeth, clothing? Do you support women’s rights and let her know you do? Have you asked her what is missing? Maybe she is gone, maybe not. But give it a shot and at least be the best person, Dad and partner you can be. I think women start to view their partner as another child and it is a buzz kill. Woman want a grown-up partner, we need our needs filled too and when we don’t have it we may look around. Not saying this is your case but if it is, start stepping up for you, for her and for your kids.