Far_Software7936

Far_Software7936 t1_iu7cepd wrote

I mean from a legal perspective, spanking is abuse. I don’t know if that’s what affects the kid the most mentally and trauma wise because well, I’m not in their brain, the parents probably verbally abuse their children too if I had to make an assumption, but the spanking is the only abuse that is described in this story so it’s the only thing I have to point out.

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Far_Software7936 t1_iu7aec8 wrote

I can’t control it, but clearly it doesn’t work as they have done it many times it sounds like from what OP said and it didn’t change behavior, and I can say they are abusive, they are. Hitting your children is abuse, it’s not a “parenting style” it’s abuse, not everyone has to do it the way I do it, but they don’t gotta be abusive.

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Far_Software7936 t1_iu77gve wrote

Beating kids doesn’t work and never will be a good way to discipline because of one key thing: REASON. As a parent you want the reason for a kid to be a good person to be a valid one that will always be valid, not “oh I’m not gonna steal from this gas station because my mom might beat me!” But rather “oh I’m not gonna steal from this gas station because my parent used logic and reason to explain to me why I shouldn’t and I formed my own opinion off of that make the choice I think is right because of that” it ain’t that hard parents, just be a good person

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Far_Software7936 t1_iu76r4c wrote

The not letting her go out and the dad lecturing her about language was enough punishment, if they stopped right there they would’ve been good parents. This was abuse. Assaulting your child in any way shape or form no matter the circumstances in abuse. It doesn’t do anything

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