Sorry to hear your closest family is not able to meet your social needs, and especially sorry to hear your father passed away in 2018, my dad who I was very close with died in 2020, when I was already feeling very isolated from COVID restrictions it was difficult to be alone while grieving.
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Don't worry about people being busy or not reaching out to you in the same way they have before, EVERYONE has their own entire life going on, with all the mental hurdles you are experiencing yourself.
Focus on what you can do to find the social interaction you seem to be wanting.
Maybe that's pickup games of frisbee, tennis, or other low barrier of entry sports (spoiler, the ones that have huge free communities are because of the low barrier to entry)
Maybe it's taking your dog to dog parks and getting to know other dog owners.
Maybe it's joining a gym.
Maybe it's finding work that puts you in a team of people.
Whatever it is, it's going to be about YOU taking action to get your social needs met, not waiting on others to meet your needs (maybe they can't, maybe they don't want to, but either way, waiting on them is just stringing yourself along)
TheWolfLoki t1_jecydx7 wrote
Reply to [TEXT] Feeling irrelevant and left in the dust; I need to make friends but it seems impossible. by thequeasydream
Sorry to hear your closest family is not able to meet your social needs, and especially sorry to hear your father passed away in 2018, my dad who I was very close with died in 2020, when I was already feeling very isolated from COVID restrictions it was difficult to be alone while grieving.
​
Don't worry about people being busy or not reaching out to you in the same way they have before, EVERYONE has their own entire life going on, with all the mental hurdles you are experiencing yourself.
Focus on what you can do to find the social interaction you seem to be wanting.
Maybe that's pickup games of frisbee, tennis, or other low barrier of entry sports (spoiler, the ones that have huge free communities are because of the low barrier to entry)
Maybe it's taking your dog to dog parks and getting to know other dog owners.
Maybe it's joining a gym.
Maybe it's finding work that puts you in a team of people.
Whatever it is, it's going to be about YOU taking action to get your social needs met, not waiting on others to meet your needs (maybe they can't, maybe they don't want to, but either way, waiting on them is just stringing yourself along)