Fuuuuuuuu——-k. Get yourself into S-ANON online meetings immediately. This is a shock. He may never be well. He may be a victim. He may be a narcissist. The S-ANON groups kept me alive in the early days of my grief.

Many people suffer with partners who are sex or love addicts. It’s not your fault, responsibility or even your business — the addiction predates your relationship.

Immediately suspend all judgments on yourself, him, your past and your future. Don’t try to think anything or figure it out.

Just EAT, SLEEP, BREATHE and attend those meetings. Link is attached! 💜💙

https://sanon.org/find-a-meeting/

Bad analogy (to physical health. )

I wouldn’t want to take advice from someone who can’t implement their own ideas.

Id rather take advice from someone who can empirically test their own recommended practices.

Better analogies:

Would anyone hire a personal trainer who doesn’t ever work out?

Or hire a vocal coach who doesn’t sing?

Or a Spanish teacher who doesn’t speak Spanish?

They’re supposed to be a bit better than most of us. Otherwise id just talk to a friend and for free. They’re in a position of authority.

Many regulatory colleges have a mandatory requirement that each practitioner do a minimum number of hours for their own treatment per year.

Good to know— we give these therapists power to diagnose us and give advice, and we PAY them for this.

This isn’t the first time I’ve been privy to a therapist or mental health practitioner with either serious integrity issues and or emotional issues themselves.

It’s gross to think of sending a vulnerable person to be in the « care » of someone like that.

I would do this!!! Moms get so tired of caring for others!!!! You’re so lucky to have a hubby!!! All I ever wanted was what you have. I’ve only met narcissists one after the other. Enjoy each other!!! Lovely ending!!!