Welcome the pansies: https://youtu.be/yd4qoyTbs70

You need to communicate with her about where your head is at. She is probably thinking that when you don’t touch her you’re not attracted, when you’re trying to control yourself. Explain clearly that if you begin to touch or feel her you think you can’t control yourself.

You can tell her that you’re doing other things to relieve stress , like cleaning or running.

Reintroduce yourself to your right/left hand, get one of those Fleshlight or similar toys, or take up running (when you feel urges go for a run).