and that's how a gambling addict is created.

Communicating your wants and needs gets better with practice. At this point you have 2 choices, break up for your own sake or stay together for his. It's never too late to tell the truth. Don't wait for the right moment, just get it over with. You could always do it by text and then block him if you want to be avoidant and passive about it.

Another angle to consider is why is he lying? And what about? Some people lie out of reflex, as a response to trauma, to avoid conflict or to prevent you from being disappointed. In the microsecond one has to decide on what to say in response to a question, some people's brains are wired to give the answer that they think will be the most pleasing or least upsetting to the listener. I'm not saying that helps you to trust him necessarily, but if it's something automatic that he does, and over the stupidest things, then he may not be able to help it and it may have nothing to do with you.

If he's lying to control and manipulate that is much more sinister.

If you are done just get it over with, otherwise you are wasting everyone's time. You'll feel better once you do.

I hope you find can find peace and joy in everyday existence! Life can be really hard, we make it infinitely harder by judging ourselves and others harshly. Best wishes.

Your belief is your reality whether it's true or not. To answer your question, everyone lies to everyone, because truth is not actually known or knowable.

You can be happy with very little. Success is defined by the individual. Fulfillment too. You can have everything and still have nothing, or you can have nothing and still have everything. It's all up to you.

That really depends how you define winning.

Don't worry man, I've met plenty of oafish doctors. As long as you are humble and willing to listen and learn, you have nothing to worry about.

Thank you for your insights into this book. I've read it a couple times, most recently just a few months ago. Even when one learns these lessons, the practical application of them is the tricky part. It's so easy to become bogged down in the day to day of work and family life. I'm grateful for the refresher!

I agree with doing more out of the house. Perhaps you could bike or walk to and from work and that would help improve your physical health. Maybe too if you are unable to get out of the YouTube scroll rabbit hole, start doing some research there about mental health, particularly as it pertains to trauma and how that affects how the brain functions. It's hard to say what it is that causes your parents to behave the way they do, but doing some research into these might give you some insight into their behaviors as well as your own. It sounds like everyone in the house is suffering from depression at the very least. It's possible that your parents are not able to admit that they need help. Maybe they can't afford mental health care.

One thing you have going for you is that you are willing to admit that there is a problem, which is the first step toward finding a solution, at least for your own sake.

As far as your mom goes, the best way to deal with her is to not allow her bold opinions to allow you to become angry. Don't let her bait you. You can't control what she thinks or says, but you can control how you allow it to make you feel. Take ownership of your emotions and do not allow someone else to "make" you feel some kind of way. Ultimately you get to choose, by just letting it go.

There are endless resources on YouTube about mindfulness and self-control. In fact, self-control is the only control we actually have. We don't pick what happens to us but we do choose how to respond. Your parents might be assholes but you can choose to learn from their anti-example. Let not wanting to be like them become your motivation.

Good luck young person!