You forgot this part: "unless the person asks"

The reason people post obituaries or bios on social media is asking for support and wanting to share with others all the wonderful things about the deceased they are going to miss.

Before you say it's for logistical reasons, it isn't. Family and other close friends who will attend services get the service info from texts, calls, emails, etc..

Ironically, one way often suggested to deal with social media posts you don't agree with is also "don't say shit" lol, if you're ok with ignoring that tenet why should I ignore my friends' grief?

Lol ok

Because I care about people and their feelings, whoopsies.

I'm sorry.

So you agree with me then, since what the post said was to read the obit or write up about the deceased when the acquaintance posts it publicly as many do. For the exact reason of sharing info, asking for support and honoring the person they miss. Nice, glad we got all the way around the circle.

I'm so sad for them, imagine never caring about anyone enough to notice their grief or try to understand it or learn about what they will be missing. Can't wait to hug my extended family asap and make sure they know how much I love them too

Sadly I cannot edit the title, it's ok though. Folks understood enough to get angry about it lol.

Thank you, I hope for your sake you aren't friendly in any manner with the other folks who commented, they feel that you and your grief can fuck on off.

To me it's not just the words, grieving people appreciate someone taking the time to understand who the person was.

Did you skip every other paragraph? I wrote in the post that if you have that knowledge then to use it and offered another option as well.

Being obtuse and clueless would be the option of not expressing any kind of empathy or condolences to someone you care about when they are experiencing grief - because you couldn't be bothered to take the 45 seconds it takes to read the obituary.

Hmm, that was largely why I included examples which were clearly not a templated list of survivors. And included the option of your own recollection of a story that you remembered. But by all means, be hateful that should work too.