Believe me, it’s in my 5-10 year plan to leave LI haha. I just wanted to secure enough experience and salary in my career before doing so, in an effort to maximize my financial opportunities elsewhere. Just hoping that works out!

Thank you! I’m hoping that it would work out where we would be able to purchase our first home like that. It’s definitely a great opportunity if it works out like that.

Ideally, we always could try to find roommate(s) but there’s always that fear of ruining a friendship or something, so I personally am quite hesitant but the idea of saving so much on rent is so tempting. It’s definitely something I could consider but I’m not sure he would go for it.

As for that emergency fund, I’ll definitely get to working on that three month reserve to start. Overall, we have relatively safe jobs as he’s in medical supplies/ems/fire and I work in corporate baking/lending. I do think my job carries the higher risk but I’m not a hedge or anything quite as volatile.

Thank you again! I appreciate your advice!

Hi there! Thank you for your reply, I appreciate it!

I do agree with you on that. It is absolutely not in the cards to purchase a $700K home in the near future, unless there is a miraculous salary increase. (I cannot see this happening again as I just doubled my salary after getting my degree a few months ago). It is also something I will not consider without marriage, but ideally in my loose plan, it would hopefully be marriage within the next year or two, house within three. (I do also want to clarify this timeline is something that we have discussed together and feel comfortable striving towards).

I also definitely didn't go into the details of that homebuyers program enough. But in the end, the way it works is that certain occupations such as teachers, law enforcement, EMS, and fire are eligible to purchase one of the given homes in their district, eligible through the government program of course-- it isn't with every home, are able to purchase the home for 50% of the list price. The only catch is that you have to reside there for three years-- which to me is so beyond worth it to save 50% on a house.

So with this, ideally we will be able to do something like this as opposed to paying the full price of a home. Obviously such a discount would make a down payment as well as monthly payment significantly more attainable/realistic.

I guess my real question is more pertaining to if paying rent on an apartment is as much of a waste as I fear it is. To pay tens of thousands per year into something that I will never own at the end of the day is something I really struggle with. However, living with my family is draining me more than I would like.

I also would like to know what you consider to be a safe emergency fund. I know a lot of people have different understandings, but I've always been under the impression that about 6 months salary is ideal. What do you suggest?

Hi there! Sorry for the late reply, but I really appreciate your (not sucky) feedback!

I recently doubled my salary in the last month, but obviously am hoping to increase within the next 6 months to a year-- clearly I will not be able to double it again so soon haha. My partner is currently starting to search around for another job, looking to increase by a minimum of $10K starting. However, with that-- I cannot rely on either of these scenarios happening until they actually happen.

As for the attacking of debts, it's in the cards to pay off all of our personal debt before we even can consider a living expense of such magnitude. But again, I anticipate both of ours being paid off within the first couple months of the new year.

The way I feel is this-- yes on paper we make enough, but truly I can't help but feel like we make enough for any of these options to feel comfortable.

I think I am just having a difficult time trying to decide if my sanity is worth sacrificing for another year or so in order to save to what I would ideally like to leave with.

Hi there, sorry for the late reply! I appreciate your feedback. I probably should have been more specific about that homebuyers program we've been looking into.

The way it works is that if you are a teacher, fire, or EMS that you would be able to purchase a home, in a specific neighborhood that fits their criteria through their website, you would be able to purchase it for 50% of the list price. So something like this makes an enormous difference in terms of what an ideal down payment is, a safe annual income, etc. The only downsides to this are that we would have to be quite specific of location and we would have to live there for a minimum of three years, however to save a few hundred thousand I am more than willing to follow said rules.

Ideally, I want to have at the very least $40K to put down, as it would be a first home purchase, but obviously the bigger down payment, the better. I also wouldn't even consider within this next year as the market is absolutely insane and the mortgage rates are really skyrocketing.

I guess I really am just wondering if paying rent is as an enormous waste of money that I fear it is. I hate the idea of paying so much into something I don't even own.

As for an adequate emergency fund, I know everyone's idea is a bit different, to me it's been a goal of 6 months salary. What do you recommend?