Yeah had an ex that said this. Took me a bit to realize what an abusive POS he was (also when I learned about gaslighting!)

Not saying she’s that bc there’s not a lot of info but no, that’s not too close

Over text or something like Snapchat? If it’s text I’d say that’s a little weird, Snapchat is fairly normally if they keep up even semi-regularly which I assume would be the case since you do business together