So big issue i am seeing is that u r focused on the wedding and he lacks interest. This is followed by him not being enotionally open.

As for the wedding, he has a valid point with his concerbs. As men, we r normally screwed in any kind of divorce and short of some tax stuff and easier for children, we dobt really get much out of it that we couldnt get with just a dedicated dating relationship. His concerns may seem disheartening but remember that if he married u and somethinf happen he could b set to lose alot if u chose to b bitter in divorce. That level of risk is massive.

Next is the emotional state. It sucks he doesnt share his emotions but it is important to consider how men r socialized. We r taught early in life to toughen up (or man up depending on prefeted term) and deal with whatever happens. We r taught that being emotionally vulnerable is a sign of weakness to b avoided. He may have had previous relationships that burned him the moment he shown weakness. Maybe he feels embarressed or guilty trying to share, thinking he is just burdening u with his problems unnecessarily. U can attempt to reassure him in general but i can almost guarentee that, if he is uncomfortable with the marriage idea, the more u push for marriage the less he will b open. I wont give a what u should do cause i dont have enough info to do that but in general try to keep their perspective in mind and if u dont understand do as u have and ask questions. They will tell u, probably quickly, what they would prefer u do and u have to decide if it is worth it for u.

Yes u bear reaponsibility. Still not death. Thats still not the appropriate punishment for this.

Edit: please also note that if all ppl could control their alcohol issues, aa would not b nearly as needed in society

At what point did i say he shouldnt b in trouble for what he did? He should c a therapist, so should she, if charges r pressed he should own up to it and face the legal consequences. In case u werent sure, the legal system tends to dislike ppl committing suicide and prefers ppl to attone for their crimes. This is why the death penalty is rare and is usually reserved for mass murderers and the like. He fucked up, but she isnt dead and can be helped. He made a stupid fuck up and needs mental help for the depression, the issues with interacting other people, and likely controlling himself and alcohol.

And ppl like u r a big reason y ppl off themselves. U should never talk to anybody depressed in any way, especially when they r trying to get it off their chest and know they fucked up. He isnt trying to say he was justified. He fucked up, he knows it, and everybody knows alcohol fucks ur ability to do most things so u cant say he should never b alone again because of a fuck up while drunk.