1. Set a schedule and stick to it. For example, when I worked nights while single, I just did whatever until I passed out sometime during the day. When I got married, I set a schedule every day. Got off at 7 am, go home, shower, and in bed by 8 am. Unless some emergency happened, I never deviated from this. My wife would get me up when she got home around 3:30, so I got sleep. 2) Don’t try to change your schedule on weekends or off-days. It will ruin your body’s adjustment to working nights, and then you’ll struggle until the weekend. 3) Just get used to feeling tired.

I’m a high school teacher, and every year I have students who want to be called by a different name, usually female transgender students who want to be called by a male name. It’s not hard to do that, and it doesn’t matter to me if they want to go by a different name. That’s a small gesture to make to make someone feel supported. If I can do that for students I barely know at first, I don’t understand why she wouldn’t do it for someone she’s in a relationship with.