The tabletop gaming extravaganza continues with the return of DollarCon this Friday/Saturday. Due to a confluence of reasons, I will have played something for 7 out of 9 days. Speaking of, I have rules to read for tonight's game while I'm on my lunch break...

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We don't have the same sense of safety that you may in terms of what bothers you or doesn't. The above maps out, by type of crime, where things happen. Plan accordingly.

Ah, then I would second what /u/RabidSeaTurtle has, especially about working with Jennings (who I had positive interactions with a few years ago).

As in internal recruiting where the company has a recruiting division to beat the bushes for talent, or external/third party (aka, headhunters)?

Yeah, I haul my stuff to the tailor down the street from me for that reason, but any of them are likely to be able to work on this sort of thing if you bring it in and explain the task.

> First is a zipper repair om a backpack. Great pack, just needs to have the zipper either reset or replaced.

For leather, I've taken stuff like that to a shoe repair person (downtown has/had a few). For cotton type fabrics, I go to a tailor.

Exactly. I once heard it said that in NYC, people are kind, not nice. They will chew you out for blocking the side walk, but if your kid doesn't have a hat in January, they will give it their own (and then chew you out for being a bad parent). In LA, they are nice & polite to you, but will ghost you at the earliest inconvenience/time of trouble. It's an oversimplification and a stereotype, but there are elements of truth in it in my experience.

ninja edit: I once had a job working with surgeons. That's the only group of people I've met who (as a collective average) were both more kind and less nice than I am...

> Like I feel like these things are tied to an overall worldview and are key components of a personality and those are things that fuel meaningful relationships for me.

I was going to make a quip about "yes, I am married" but then I got to this line. Just cause someone likes modern country music doesn't mean they are a bad person, it just means we have different rules about open air music playing or what happens in the car. When I did lots of stuff involving live music, I just went by myself cause they didn't have any interest in being in crowds or who was performing or anything like that.

The biggest things for a meaningful relationship for me is a significant overlap in core values regarding forward planning, kindness (not niceness, there is a difference), personal drive, conceptual thinking (or even more broadly but less of a metric, overall intelligence). A more distant fifth/sixth place would be broad political alignment, and value of children. A lot of that can be wrapped up in the idea of worldview, but I suspect you and I differ on what makes up that concept. It's really tough for me to invest a chunk of my (already stretched) emotional energy on someone if they deviate in multiple categories, especially that first set.

My spouse and I don't really share hobby interests (I have hobbies in music and gaming and painting, they in cycling, home crafts, cooking), we have very different Myers Brigs profiles (we share a T) and mine is strident at that... We're quite different people, but we share some foundational values; such as (but not limited to) we both share political views (even down to that 8 categories break out that Pew does), we are both driven, we're both kind (the whole east coast "baby needs a hat" theory resonates with us), but "nice" isn't usually an adjective attributed to us (especially me). I think it was Esther Perel who talked about "we are looking for someone who checks boxes for various needs we have at romantic/intellectual/social/etc levels" and my spouse checks more proverbial boxes (and the more important ones at that) than any other person I know. They don't check all of the boxes, but nobody does. We've been together for a long time.

yeah. I find that Axios is hit or miss; sometimes I'm ok with just the brief summary, but there are times (like this) where a long form piece is more what I'm after.

Kudos that they did answer the question of why.