The pacing is slow. The way it’s edited is very “Korean reality TV”, which it is. But if you can deal with the pacing and the editing, it’s super compelling.

If you’re into Physical:100, you’ll almost certainly also like Run for the Money, also on Netflix. Japanese reality show about a bunch of people trapped in a Dutch-themed theme park and being hunted (tag). Same issues re: pacing and editing, but really fun and surprisingly tense.

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Sorry to hear that your friendship is now second to your business. But that’s not the worst way it could go. I had a college housemate who I started a company with. He was awful to work with. I turned the company into a huge financial success, and then he stabbed me in the back and robbed me of it. I hope he dies alone and forgotten. But he won’t, because the guy who asked him to stab me in the back for him is super rich, and they’re all set for life. Bad people win sometimes, and there’s just not a damn thing you can do about it.

I wondered for a long time how a friend could do that to someone. Not just me - to anyone. But the right way to look at it isn’t that I should be angry that a friend stabbed me in the back. The right way to look at it is to be sad that someone I thought was a friend never really was.

I hope your relationship turns out better than mine did. Sounds like you’re on stronger footing.

I think that's wholly up to you. If it doesn't give him additional money, then the big negative is gone. I still have my copy of Ender's Game and The Worthing Saga. I'm debating whether to let my older son read Ender's Game. It'd be right up his alley. I suspect I probably will, and then we'll talk about Mr. Card's views afterwards.

I think the interesting thing about Card is that my interpretation of his books doesn't reflect his real-life worldview at all. One of the reasons I felt a sense of betrayal when I found out about his views was that they seem so contrary to what I took from his writing. Which is one of the interesting things about stories, how they can bend and change depending on who's reading them.

But let's take a different author, and someone I equally admired as a kid: Frank Miller. I love The Dark Knight Returns, and Daredevil: Born Again. Born Again might be my favorite comic arc ever. It still is.

But then look at something like 300, or Holy Terror. Whether it's blatant homophobia or blatant Islamophobia - those things are in those books in really fundamental ways. Is reading them bad? It depends.

We learn from stories. We build our ideals and our worldview through them. We find role models in characters. We alter our real-world behavior based on myths. While I can look at Miller's more recent work, and it's so far out in space that I can say, "This is grotesque" and reject it, the closer and closer you get to "normal" the harder it is to distinguish the influence those characters can have on you.

Should you stop reading Card? I don't know. I deeply love some of his books. But at the same time, what if instead, I read N.K. Jemisin? Octavia Butler? Ted Chiang? Would I be influenced by their works? Surely. How would the subtle influence their work has on my worldview change me? Their work is no less grand.

We all have a limited amount of time to spend. We should be careful who we choose to spend it with.

Also if you’re not yet convinced, read anything he wrote in response to 9/11, Iraq and Afghanistan. It’s incomprehensible that that’s the same person that wrote Ender’s Game, but it is.