Thankfully if you stop using long enough it does seem to go away for many people. Some studies suggest it's reversible in the sense that your pain receptors may "reset" their tolerance after roughly 5-6 months of abstinence from the drug. Sometimes doctors have success just rotating opioids in their patient's med schedule and using other pain meds in-between.

Paradoxically, a small percentage of people who regularly use opioids develop Opioid Induced Hyperalgesia (OIH), which means they basically become sensitized to their own pain.

The current theory about the mechanism is that certain parts of the major pain pathways in your nervous system gain a unique tolerance to the drug's pain relief effects. I'm probably oversimplifying, but it's a real phenomenon and not very well understood.

That's not a FU, that's a family being awful to its own members. I'm sorry you've gone through so much with so little support. It sounds like your mom has some serious psychological problems, if your sister was abused that could have started the hypersexuality at a young age, too. I hope you can find your own chosen family, and do what you have to do to leave this dead-end chapter of your life.

"Getting drunk and helping other people with their life issues" sounds like top-tier escapism

Is it okay to not be physically attracted to your partner? Especially if everything else is going well in the relationship?

It wouldn't be as airtight of an experiment to show causality, especially since again no evidence points to vitamin deficits being a direct mechanism. You'd probably have to track prenatal health, and you'd have to measure known genetic ADHD markers to account for ADHD being highly genetic when running statistical analyses.

But good luck getting the cash to fund it if there isn't already compelling evidence that vitamin deficit is directly linked to ADHD. Investors usually don't like "taking risks for the sake of exploration" unfortunately

Has anyone else come to the conclusion that OP might also be a little on the ASD spectrum? I didn't even really consider foot fetish until I read the comments.

Compared to others, autistics are way more likely to upset people in social situations due to simply not reading the room accurately, not dropping a subject, accidentally crossing boundaries, etc. Either way your friend's response is out of your control OP, I'd suggest getting therapy and put the work into learning how to love yourself so you don't want to jump from a balcony from the sheer pain of the rejection.

Also IBS sufferers here, the gut pain part is too real. Eating a little better, taking probiotics and improving mental state have a huge effect on gut pain.

I said a comment reads like it was coming from a psychopath. Not that the dude in the story is one. Reading comprehension dude.

I'm gonna have to pull a MO and say show me.

Never said he was a horrible person or psychopath. I said you can't have an honest conversation with someone who can hardly be honest with themselves.

It's about talking honestly and doing the work (in the relationship and your own self) to lessen the jealousy.

He was willing to lie about some big things. Didn't even admit until later he did the escort thing just to hurt her. How can you have an open and honest discussion when one party can't even be fully honest with themselves?

He's lying and manipulating with the cards he's been dealt. Saw it in the tea leaves for years that she was primarily lesbian and tried to convince her to stay unhappily with him to spare the pain of having to start over. What you just said reads like a psychopath