There is a reason no one his age will date him. What an insufferable insecure douche.

No, this is corny as hell. Leave her alone.

Honestly, I'm not one for ultimatums, but at this point it seems like you have done everything to try and communicate but you can't go any further if he won't put in his half of the effort.

Perhaps it's time to tell him that it's time for therapy to help fix this issue or else you're done. No more of this, "I'll try and do better but I don't want to go to therapy with you" nonsense. He either goes or you go.

Especially since by the sounds of it he isn't providing much in the marriage or bringing anything positive to your life. You don't have to stay with someone and be unhappy. It doesn't have to be extremely toxic and abusive for you to leave. You're allowed to leave because your needs aren't being met and you aren't satisfied or happy anymore.

And the fact she even offered to cover the tip herself and told him the day before they didn't need to go to an expensive place! But his fragile masculinity was more important to him that he didn't tell her he tipped so low until after she couldn't even do anything about it. I don't even order food if I can't tip the driver. Is tipping culture stupid as hell in the US? Yeah, it is. But it is what it is and I'm not gonna short change someone working hard like that.