I mean, there’s a chance this persons legs were ashy but their feet were not. Also without glasses it can be extremely hard to tell, so I can’t blame op lol

Leggings do not cover feet, those are called stockings.

I definitely get more attention from my partner when I dress up. I like it that way. But he’s never shy to tell me I’m cute, beautiful, sexy etc. when I’m not dressed up. So I can understand your point of view.

I think you should talk with your boyfriend about how that makes you feel. Let him know you enjoy the words of affirmation and you want him to do it more often (when you’re simply your regular self).

If he can’t or if he feels you’re not “beautiful enough” without all the pizazz.. it’s up to you where to go from there. Personally I would feel they’re not attracted to me and I would probably leave.