screenlicker

screenlicker t1_j08vi58 wrote

I believe pain and suffering and every emotion out there is inherently valid and that they are called feelings because we really feel them. They are real.

I also believe in the power of a positive attitude. It is not always easy and in some situations it may be inappropriate. I try my best not to invalidate any of my feelings of grief or loss or sadness or inadequacy by papering over them with a positive attitude. I don’t think that is helpful or genuine. I try to really feel what I am feeling and I will express it if I think that is a good idea, sometimes just thinking words and sentences explicitly, sometimes writing things in my journal, sometimes talking things over with a friend. After I have really expressed my unpleasant feelings, sometimes I am then ready to look forward and embrace a positive attitude. I don’t think anything you said is wrong. It’s just not what I personally took away from the post.

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screenlicker t1_iqyhkj2 wrote

I was thinking of dismemberment/amputation as well.

Really, I believe everything we do has some form of permanence. There is no going back: time runs one-way.

This is not to say that we can't learn from our mistakes or that we cannot grow or become better people. I believe that we all have that capability to some extent. It is a core tenet of mine.

But I had a music teacher say once about playing a wrong note, once it's done, it's out there -- there's no going back.

I believe it is true of everything. Good or bad.

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