soMAJESTIC

soMAJESTIC t1_jdzn27w wrote

A lot of red flags in short succession. A lot of unnecessary drama injected into your life by rushing into things with someone who isn’t stable. You’ll have to set boundaries as far as what you need to be happy in a relationship. If he can’t give you what you need to feel secure, then it’s probably for the best, because someone else absolutely will. Whatever happens, use the experience to think about behaviors and issues to be on the look out for. Take your time and make sure the relationship you’re getting into suits your needs

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soMAJESTIC t1_jd74hxx wrote

Ever look into BPD? When you used the term “feeling like I’d gone home”, it kind of rung that bell. People who have been through trauma often get stuck getting back into the cycles that hurt them in the first place, and will often times be drawn to people who can bring out the worst in them. Dating when we are older is tough, because these injuries don’t just go away, and it takes a lot of work to stay in a healthy place.

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soMAJESTIC t1_j8wb1a6 wrote

The first step, for your own well being, a license will be a big source of empowerment and freedom for you. Look at driving classes in your area, programs are relatively cheap, with manageable schedules. The environments are low pressure, and they take you through the entire process of licensing. It is very low pressure, and will be very rewarding.

The main question is do you trust him. Are you worried he will cheat on you. It sounds like he’s just got a broader sexual appetite, and was understandably insecure about being honest with you about it. I mean, look at your reaction. If you love him, and you don’t have any intimacy issues together, maybe focus on ways to improve the situation. Maybe try watching the stuff he is into and see if you could share that with him.

Whatever you decide, it will all be ok. You guys are young. Even if you feel you have to break up, and you need yo Uber around for a while, you will always find ways to move forward.

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