delay the wedding for now. my belief is that if it's not a hell yes then it's a no. I feel like your girl is Filipina and if her family's what I think it is, you are never going to have her as your wife 100%. Her family's welfare will always come first even though you're starting your own family. If you're taking her to live with you, expect that even if she gets a good job a huge chunk of her earnings will be sent back home and won't go towards your plans as a couple. You will become the money source of the family so expect calls about every possible financial emergency. you're going to visit her hometown often and expect that you will be the ones spending the whole time. I could be wrong, but in most cases this is what happens. observe and assess because that is a big commitment you're making.
throwaway_151821 t1_jadaadz wrote
Reply to I (36M) don't feel good about my upcoming marriage with my gf (30F). Do you think it's just cold feet or should I call it off? by [deleted]
delay the wedding for now. my belief is that if it's not a hell yes then it's a no. I feel like your girl is Filipina and if her family's what I think it is, you are never going to have her as your wife 100%. Her family's welfare will always come first even though you're starting your own family. If you're taking her to live with you, expect that even if she gets a good job a huge chunk of her earnings will be sent back home and won't go towards your plans as a couple. You will become the money source of the family so expect calls about every possible financial emergency. you're going to visit her hometown often and expect that you will be the ones spending the whole time. I could be wrong, but in most cases this is what happens. observe and assess because that is a big commitment you're making.