Many bases have legal services your military members and dependents can access. You may want to look at setting up an appointment with your future spouse and their base legal services to get additional information.

This year you file your taxes as always with DC because you didn't marry in 2022 the tax year that is currently being filed for. Assuming your Marrying in the upcoming year, the 2023 tax season will be more complicated. You can change your residency to match your spouse's once married, you will want to make sure your employer chages your state withholdings. The next year you would file in DC for the months up until you changed your residency and then the remainder of the year would be filed with the state you changed to. So in 2023 you would have 2 state returns. The year after that would be the first full tax year with your new state and you would only need to file with your new state no longer working about DC.

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