You sound like you’re seriously insecure and need therapy before you drive him away. First you falsely accused him of cheating, he forgave you and made a harmless joke about how awesome you are, and now you’re holding that against him. Seriously, you need to stop this behavior.

I’m confused…it sounds like she was talking to a colleague who she works with on a night shift, and their work location…and you don’t think they should be doing that?

Try to troll less obviously, this is embarrassing.

Has anything like this ever happened before?

Would you have been happy with finishing in a way that didn’t involve penetration, and did you communicate that to her?

Make sure he doesn't run out of lube?

Is there some reason this is a problem for him to do?

Yeah, sorry but you have no right to be pissed. You haven’t given him any reason to believe you have a problem with strip clubs or strippers. You’ve gone to them and not said anything when he went in the past. That said, it’s a definite red flag that he was cheating on his girlfriend when he got together with you.

So you weren’t bothered by that party, but you’re bothered by him going to the strip club?

Did you ask him how he felt about it before you went?

OK, yeah, I think you’re right to break up.

But no details beyond that? Who kissed who, whether she’s attracted to him, etc?

There is a big difference between ‘he kissed me and I was kind of startled and kissed back for a second before I got it together’, and something where they’d been flirting and she initiated.

What did she have to say about it?

She's not wrong that if her bills are paid and her child is fed, it's really not your business to criticize how she spends. If the most she's ever asked you for is a frozen pizza you'd offered in the first place, it's not like she's taking advantage of you. I understand why you think she should make different choices, but you should step back.

I this is him "changed", I'd hate to see what he was like before.

Please leave him .He's emotionally abusive and you deserve so much better.