That can be true too. It depends on who gets this advice.

Wow. Serendipitous that I saw this. I've been fighting with someone in my family who I am very close to (but who has historically lashed out at me repeatedly and gaslit me and done very mean things) for several days now after him suddenly again lashing out at me (literally out of the blue a day after everything was great), and he said something very cruel and unfair that has left me reeling. Our relationship is basically done after what he said and his refusal to walk that back, and in fact saying that I would have to admit to secretly wishing an extremely horrible accident to happen to him (which is 100% never the case- I love this person) or else I am not validating his reality. I kept saying I didn't feel that and giving him the chance to apologize, but it won't be coming. I'm heartbroken about it. But this text above is super helpful to me.