Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pah7r wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:54 PM

Reply to comment by Blind_Wolf in How do you get over and forgive yourself for blowing a relationship with the one you deeply love because you weren’t putting in the required effort to grow and maintain it? by Swimming-Rough-9514

Thanks.. It's been over a year and I am still struggling when I think about it. I just miss talking to her, no others I've dated has felt close to the same.

Mediumokrahmom t1_j6peauf wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:20 PM

You’re holding her memory on a pedestal. If you compare everyone else to her they’re never going to add up. You knew her better and longer than these people you’re trying to date.

Have you tried talking to someone, a professional about this?

Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pg8fn wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:33 PM

But with her it was instant and intense connection.. It’s rare

Mediumokrahmom t1_j6pgtv4 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:37 PM

No. It isn’t. Plenty of people connect immediately. Chemistry is chemistry. You won’t connect with anyone because you can’t get over her

Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pj1rz wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:52 PM

Maybe. I’m actively trying to get over her though. It’s just not as easy as you are trying to depict

Mediumokrahmom t1_j6pjmb6 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:56 PM

It’s been a year. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it has to be done.

Perhaps a therapist can help you. You’ve been doing this on your own and can’t get over her. I’ve been there. I know it’s hard not to beat yourself up, but you have to do it for yourself