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greyfir1211 t1_ix9vlip wrote

Reply to comment by irishtim1393 in Parents welcome twins from embryos frozen 30 years ago by genericdude999

I understand this sentiment, but you can’t go into being a foster parent expecting to adopt a child straight away at all, sometimes it just never happens. A lot of children in foster care need a safe place while things get sorted out with their biological families. Then the vetting of foster families is not great so it’s horrifyingly typical for these kids to be put through traumatic situations in the foster system, all while being taken from your biological family is already traumatic and life-altering.

Disenfranchised and non white parents also seem way more likely to be targeted by CPS in the USA than other families. The entire system is incredibly corrupt. All that being said i still want to be a foster parent myself one day because of personal experiences, but it is NOT for everyone, it is a huge task to undertake.

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irishtim1393 t1_ix9w3jl wrote

That’s a fair point. But with my admittedly limited understanding of this particular family, they are a white family that clearly has the resources to raise 6 children simultaneously. Why add to the number of children in the world if you have the resources to care for one that already is alive and in need? My good friend was in the foster care system, and it was horrific. I wouldn’t wish for anyone to have to go through that. It just makes me frustrated to see that they’re doing this.

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greyfir1211 t1_ix9x9fq wrote

The fertility industry is definitely its own crazy ethical mess. :( I think you and me probably have a similar outlook on this. Making friends with kids who suffered in the system completely changed my outlook on life.

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