The fertility industry is definitely its own crazy ethical mess. :( I think you and me probably have a similar outlook on this. Making friends with kids who suffered in the system completely changed my outlook on life.

This is what a lot of my relatives are like! Only just slowing down in their mid 80s.

I understand this sentiment, but you can’t go into being a foster parent expecting to adopt a child straight away at all, sometimes it just never happens. A lot of children in foster care need a safe place while things get sorted out with their biological families. Then the vetting of foster families is not great so it’s horrifyingly typical for these kids to be put through traumatic situations in the foster system, all while being taken from your biological family is already traumatic and life-altering.

Disenfranchised and non white parents also seem way more likely to be targeted by CPS in the USA than other families. The entire system is incredibly corrupt. All that being said i still want to be a foster parent myself one day because of personal experiences, but it is NOT for everyone, it is a huge task to undertake.