Submitted by Disciplineking t3_11j0ya5 in GetMotivated

This is my complete list of mental tools I apply daily to:

Perform tasks I genuinely do not want to do.

Resist things I desperately want to do.

Table of contents:

Part 1-

  • Meditation (Discipline mini-workout)
  • Motivational Awareness (Discipline Fuel)
  • Adaptive Denial (Discipline Placebo)

Part 2-

  • Urge Surfing (Discipline Lane Assist)
  • Chunking (Discipline Rep Assist)
  • Shame-free Analysis (Discipline Muscle repair)

I should note prior to attempting these, I highly recommend applying these for a MINIMUM of 30 days, like going to the gym, if you quit when you don’t have a 6-pack in a week you have unrealistic expectations.

Do it for 30 days, I guarantee you’ll see results and thank me.

Mediation

I used to hate meditation, then I saw so many people I admired doing it, and I kept hearing about it in peer reviewed studies so I tried it out.

This is what happened:

  • I became aware of my cravings, but became aware I didn’t need to follow them.
  • I’d feel powerful emotions, and not react to them.
  • I was more present in my daily life and my interactions with others improved.
  • I started sleeping better and worrying less.

How to do it: Literally for just 10 minutes every morning after you wake up, or as long as you can tolerate up to that, sit and try to focus on your breathing. When you notice yourself following a thought trial, gently, without criticizing yourself, come back to the breath. Overtime you get thought control and once you can control your thoughts, you can begin controlling your life.

Motivational awareness

I used to skip the gym consistently, that was until I identified the proper motivation. For me that was the awareness I lost someone I loved very much because I was a couch potato, glutton, and destroyed my self esteem.

So going to the gym = self esteem, health, and romantic success

Determine what you would miss dearly if you lost it?

Something you’d be other the moon if you acquired?

Look at who you envy, what do they have?

Is there a way you can connect your goals to that desire?

If you can do this you tend to stop making excuses and find a way through most of the obstacles you face in your life.

Adaptive denial

The brain is an extremely stupid organ**. It will in fact believe whatever it hears if repeated enough**, this is why advertisers bombard us with the same message 1000x even though we’ve already seen their commercial and didn’t care.

You can apply this to your own growth though, literally just practice saying what you want to be true to yourself daily.

For 26 years I was skinny and unathletic, I was the kid that failed PE.

I knew I could NEVERRRRRR get ripped.

Then one day I read psychocybernetics and decided to try out what the plastic surgeon delineated.

I said: “DK you’re yoked.”

Week 1: This is bullshit, I’ll never be yoked.

Week 2: We’re still skinny

Week 6: Still not yoked

Week 10: Wtf is that thing in the mirror?

Week 24: Bruhhhhh you starting to get yoked.

Week 60: I no longer have to manually tell myself I’m yoked, people tell me.

When you lie to yourself long enough, the internal lie eventually becomes spoken by those around you.

I’ll post part 2 tmro, I hope you guys enjoyed this.

Do you have a discipline stack, what does yours include?

Let me know if you have any questions or if I can help you with a goal that you’ve been struggling with.

DK-

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cottonballcheeks t1_jb109lo wrote

Can this be applied to starting a source of income?

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Disciplineking OP t1_jb12duc wrote

Im literally doing that right now, i highly recommend reading the book content inc to get started.

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trialmonkey t1_jb2d296 wrote

The last part is sort of how I motivate myself to practice playing music. I heard someone say that you can either get 1% worse every day, or 1% better. It's a choice. Implies that results won't be immediately noticeable, but over time they show. The same with the inverse.

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Different-Cut-6992 t1_jb1z16k wrote

I like this, I’ll give it a try. I struggle with self control so much and I HATE it. Change is hard.

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Jackster227 t1_jb3723o wrote

This is all looks like great advice and will probably work for a lot of people BUT please be aware: Human beings are messy and complicated and what works for some people might very well not for you. It doesn't mean your weird or broken in any way.

Also if you have major issues with motivation and self discipline, look into ADHD. I have inattentive ADHD so I had a lot of issues with this stuff for years and it was ruining my life, but I didn't have the relatively 'flashy' hyperactive traits so had no idea for most of my life.

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Disciplineking OP t1_jb3b7dj wrote

Dude I have ADHD, this teaching is the result of my Cognitive and Dialectical behavioral therapy

I just wanted to get off adderal without ruining my life.

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Jackster227 t1_jb4rzku wrote

That's great that this works for you. I never said it wouldn't work for people with ADHD, I myself meditate in the mornings and it helps a lot. Just thought I'd mention ADHD because honestly, regardless of the meds, just getting the diagnosis was a huge help and a massive relief in and of itself

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Milakai t1_jb0x8dj wrote

What a beautiful way to say YES to yourself…. Congratulations and thank you for sharing this… 🙏

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frostybabydaddy t1_jb3mctx wrote

Thanks dude. One of the things I struggle with is starting therapy again. Of course this is not a replacement, but I'm really happy you're sharing some nuggets of knowledge with us!

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