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Insomnambulant t1_jbzg07t wrote

With ya, except there can be value in validation.

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AmargithHuld t1_jc1cphe wrote

Also in putting the blame where it belongs, for that matter.

I feel itd be more accurate if they said, your focus shifts to addressing things yourself and getting on with it - and the rest is basically just there.

It does not disappear. Impressing ppl can be nice, as is receiving validation, and not assuming more blame than is yours, by knowing what exactly transpired is pretty useful as well. And excuses can be the explanation you need to see another person’s pov, and get why they did things the way they did em.

It’s just not the crux the way fixing things/focusing is.

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Insomnambulant t1_jc3ofkd wrote

With you here too — I think the message here is “own it.’ Not terribly original but I get it. :)

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