That is an incredibly cynical way to interpret someone trying to help. If someone reached out to me about something they're dealing with, I'd want to help them. Even if trying to find a silver lining isn't what that person needs, my bumbling attempts to help come from a place of empathy, not selfishness.

Not everyone handles their struggles in the same way. For some people, finding those silver linings is their way of managing their own suffering. Naturally, they'd want to help others in the same way. It's not an inherently wrong position to take, it's just the not everyone handles it that way. Don't judge people harshly if they attempt to offer positive perspectives. They may just be clueless on how to help, rather than simply being selfish.