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Cognitive_Spoon t1_j0b7kf3 wrote

Reply to comment by nyxnars in [Image] Believe that life is rigged in your favor by crm_expert

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Whenever I read ones like this, I imagine them on a slip of paper that HR keeps in their desk to hand out whenever employees come to ask about time off or raises.

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PiddleAlt t1_j0cthxi wrote

This is more like what Tammy tells you. She is the daughter of an ex VP at General Electric. Got out before things fell apart! :giggle: She went to college and met her husband, a partner at a small boutique investment firm, and had two kids.

She gets a little sad sometimes though and needs to perk herself up. So she checks her account balances to make sure she is still wealthy and says this as a mantra.

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Randomn355 t1_j0d3upq wrote

Or it's people who have grown up in abusive, divorced households, who know they can make the cut because they'll actually apply themselves at something they're good at. Rather than following a passion that doesn't allow them to achieve their goals.

And you know what? We have already won.

Because we get it. We understand how to plan a career path, we understand how to adapt to setbacks, and most importantly of all, we aren't afraid to make changes necessary within our morals.

How many people stay at a job certain they're being underpaid?

How many people stay living in an area because it's familiar and comfortable, instead of moving somewhere that is better for their goals (careers, savings, home ownership etc)?

How many people choose to drive a car MUCH more expensive than they need, rather than putting that money towards the goals they claim to want so bad?

But people who aren't willing to adopt this kind of mentality will invitably find themselcwa in one of 2 camps.

Fortunate enough to not have a problem with that, or perpetually stuck not achieving their goals.

You can either take a defeatist mentality, or the one OP describes. One of those, in every situation, will work better for you than the other.

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Tre_Walker t1_j0d5g0u wrote

> You can either take a defeatist mentality, or the one OP describes. One of those, in every situation, will work better for you than the other.

I have to take sides with you. Title says "rigged in your favor". Paranoia is the opposite; as in things and or people are rigged/rigging against you. Pronoia is the belief in the opposite that people are actually wanting the best for you and even conspiring to lift you up.

As you said one works better than the other. Whether either is true in any given scenario. One feels better and works better.

Does anyone really believe thinking things are rigged against them is a productive mindset?

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SusuSketches t1_j0e6ytg wrote

Nobody wants to feel worthless but some people experience things that cause actions and mind to change. Learning Pronoia is possible but not easily by everyone. Positive reinforcement during hard times to get the mind out of a bad loop is something I still struggle with at times. Wishing everyone the best.

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Mercinary-G t1_j0fl76f wrote

Wow so many cognitive leaps. You argued both sides and responded to a completely different narrative.

You are already winning

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Randomn355 t1_j0gddti wrote

No, I just pointed out that it's about coming from privilege or not, it's a mindset that can be bred by pragmatism (and other things of course).

If you need to believe there's leaps there so you can justify your own lack of positivity, that's fine.

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poodlebutt76 t1_j0d9moh wrote

Remember the old adage about being an adult. That you can keep two opposing principles in your head at once.

You can still practice gratitude while asking for/trying to reach better conditions at the same time. In fact, each informs the other, and when they're not in balance, you get entitlement the one hand, and learned helplessness on the other.

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