No, I just pointed out that it's about coming from privilege or not, it's a mindset that can be bred by pragmatism (and other things of course).

If you need to believe there's leaps there so you can justify your own lack of positivity, that's fine.

No worries :)

I hear you. I've been in exactly that position relatively recently.

Ultimately I made the choice to walk away from my only group of friends, basically the only people I spoke to regularly other than my mum and partner.

In a lot of ways, it was also the best choice I ever made.

It's a difficult change, but a necessary one.

More just commenting on the fact that the issue isn't the post offending people, it's their attitude.

Or to be far more succinct, do you think you'll have more success with a positive mindset, or a negative one?

Because it's no accident one of those is recommended regularly, and the other isn't recommended ever.

No, this is having gratitude for what you have, and knowing you will achieve those goals.

But just because you're on the correct trajectory to succeed, it doesn't mean you stop trying.

Either they're toxic people, or they're actually pretty accurate in saying it's your fault.

If they're toxic, why are you keeping them around?

The people hating on it existing in a negative outlook. If they just did what you describe they'd literally barely interact with anything.

Make changes.

Start working towards qualifications, or move somewhere cheaper, or drive a cheaper car, or change your diet to be bigger on things like oats/potatoes/beans/rice etc, pick up cheaper hobbies that you can swap from your existing ones.

That's all stuff off the top of my head.

"Knowing you have made the best choice you reasonably could" is my benchmark for doing things.

You'll never know everything, and you'll never be able to research enough to become an expert.

But do enough that you have done what you can.

Or it's people who have grown up in abusive, divorced households, who know they can make the cut because they'll actually apply themselves at something they're good at. Rather than following a passion that doesn't allow them to achieve their goals.

And you know what? We have already won.

Because we get it. We understand how to plan a career path, we understand how to adapt to setbacks, and most importantly of all, we aren't afraid to make changes necessary within our morals.

How many people stay at a job certain they're being underpaid?

How many people stay living in an area because it's familiar and comfortable, instead of moving somewhere that is better for their goals (careers, savings, home ownership etc)?

How many people choose to drive a car MUCH more expensive than they need, rather than putting that money towards the goals they claim to want so bad?

But people who aren't willing to adopt this kind of mentality will invitably find themselcwa in one of 2 camps.

Fortunate enough to not have a problem with that, or perpetually stuck not achieving their goals.

You can either take a defeatist mentality, or the one OP describes. One of those, in every situation, will work better for you than the other.

The fact so many people talking about exploitation as if they're the victims of the system when they're the ones doing a lot of the exploiting is a testament to the entitlement many people gave.