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Potatowrath t1_j0d31gv wrote

Say that to neglected children, rape victims ect... Nothing worse for healing then not facing the bad things that has happened to you! Toxic positivity and gaslighting never fixed anything! People need to talk about their problems and see them for what they are not put their head in the sand!

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RamDasshole t1_j0d9vio wrote

This doesn't imply that suffering is all mental, but rather that we spend more time worrying about potential problems than dealing with actual problems.

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Astilaroth t1_j0fqvib wrote

When I was pregnant I had a panic attack ... what if it was twins? Or triplets? What if it had Down syndrom? WHAT IF IT'S A TRIPLET WITH DOWN SYNDROM?

It's ridiculous

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Potatowrath t1_j0ddz4v wrote

Being anxious and having anxiety is real, but dealing with that is though comforting why you feel that way, not telling yourself that it's just in your head! And having anxiety is a "real" problem!

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gummybear904 t1_j0eit4j wrote

Well modern cognitive behavioral therapy is heavily influenced by stoicism and the whole idea of stoicism is understanding that you can't control events that happen to you or even your own thoughts to some extent, but you can control your emotional reaction to them.

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RunBlitzenRun t1_j0did9j wrote

I’m struggling to see how this post implies toxic positivity, gaslighting, or not facing negative things.

To me, acknowledging that suffering is internal is really hopeful and liberating: it means if I face the bad things (with the help of a therapist of course), I can reduce suffering and it doesn’t depend on anyone else. Hope is very different from toxic positivity.

This reminds me of this quote from Harry Potter: “Of course it’s happening inside your head, Harry, but why should that mean it’s not real?”

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FuckYouThrowaway99 t1_j0e4g5j wrote

It's "etc" as in et cetera. Well done with your inane comment that sidesteps the point of the original post with a bizarre strawman argument.

"What about the guy who got his arm chopped off?!?!?!?" Yeah because that's exactly who Seneca is talking about /s lol

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