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Soul0103 t1_j0pz4lv wrote

So basically, “suck it up”

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AaronBurrSer t1_j0qh5lx wrote

Not necessarily.

Treat yourself kindly. Help your inner child where the adults in your life failed them.

It’s scary and it sucks sometimes. You have to find a way to be on your own side and be there for yourself- to love yourself.

It can sound like “suck it up” but really it’s coming to reality with the situation and being good to yourself to guide you through it.

It’s not always easy. Not always fun. And it doesn’t always feel good, but learning to love yourself and use your own wisdom to get you through difficult situations is a valuable skill.

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cyrixlord t1_j0qlfpo wrote

some people learn to dance in the rain; others just get wet

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AaronBurrSer t1_j0qo5au wrote

I like that line.

This planet fucking sucks. The institutions that are supposed to help and provide for us often don’t. We are all so divided based on religion or ideologies.

It’s okay to be mindful of the despair of it and all it’s meaningless, but be careful because it’s easy to lose yourself in that.

It’s a ridiculous and absurd place. You can either accept that and feel powerless, or learn to laugh along with the big joke that is life.

There’s a line in a song by AJJ that goes: “Welcome to this world have as much fun as you would like, while helping others have as much fun as you’re having”

And that’s basically the gist of it for me. This world isn’t perfect, but while you’re here try to have good time and make sure you can help others have a good time too.

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dedicated-pedestrian t1_j0qpay1 wrote

I mean, more that we shouldn't hope for help that's not coming. That doesn't help us - it's not kindness, just lying to ourselves.

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WasabiSniffer t1_j0scggc wrote

Once you accept that you need to do things for yourself and most things you can do yourself, if you have the right tools, the task is easy and you are still struggling, there is a teenie tiny little bit of "suck it up" to apply.

Before I had my anxiety meds I was able to do most things myself but my problem was procrastinating because I wanted to be in my safe space.

If you have to force something to happen, theres a chance things will break, and that may be you. If "normal" tasks are exceedingly difficult then there may be something you didnt think of that needs adjusting to make the machine work smoothly, and an underlying problem that needs addressing.

Source: speaking from experience, and this may be applicable to some but not others.

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AaronBurrSer t1_j0r0g7l wrote

The phrase “suck it up” doesn’t do much to help and is dismissive of the problems someone may be going through.

It’s possible to send that message through without being a dick essentially. Because there are many times when you simply have to accept you’ve been dealt a shit hand or have no choice but to power through a situation. That doesn’t mean you have to treat yourself harshly and be dismissive of emotions.

Be gentle with yourself, process your emotions, and then you can start putting together plans of action and get through.

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