Because that's all the "help" they're going to give lol. Some people pretend they have your back because they want to look good, but in reality they couldn't be bothered. Leave those people behind, look for someone who's going to take you on that walk.

That's not what this is about.

This kind of advice was incredibly helpful to me once upon a time. I'd been waiting for something to happen in my life that would put me on the path to fixing all my problems. Kind of like how in the movie Yes Man, Jim Carrey has an old friend drag him to a seminar, he meets a manic pixie girl as a result, and suddenly he has a great life. It wasnt really a conscious thought, but I realized that I'd been wasting my time waiting for some external help that would turn my life around, almost like waiting for a knight in shining armor to appear. Reading that "no one is coming to save you" helped me get going with helping myself out of a bit of a hole I'd dug myself into.

Kind of an extreme example, but lots of people have problems they're just hoping will resolve themselves. Asking for help is fine, but ultimately you have to be the project lead on solving almost all of your problems.

> afraid to ask for help when they need it, but then tell them shit's tough and leave them on their own when they try to get it.

The point is to ask people for the tools to be able to help yourself.

Sound like u got some harsh truths to learn.